In light of recent national events, I thought it would be helpful to fill our minds this morning with some thoughts on positivity. Every day brings new challenges, some more complex than others. Although the answers are not always apparent to me, I know ultimately, everything will be alright in the end.
I’m counting on it.
“Everything Will Be Alright”
Strategies for Achieving Greater Positivity
This weekend I had the pleasure of seeing the movie The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel. It is a charming story about an eclectic mix of characters’ search to find greater meaning and adventure by traveling to India during their “golden years.”
The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel is a newly created retirement hotel run by a young, ambitious dreamer named Sonny. Whenever faced with adversity, Sonny would always respond with optimism. “Everything will be alright in the end. If it’s not alright, it’s not the end.”
I love that expression because it speaks to the power of positivity and hopefulness.
Every day we are surrounded by negativity. The current political climate, economic pressures, and the stresses of attempting to fit a 48-hour life into a 24-hour day all contribute to eroding attitudes. We must be intentional in achieving greater positivity in order to create the kind of life we want!
Here are a few tips if you need a boost:
1) Pick your “fave five.” T-Mobile can well be credited with the expression but the question also offers us a challenge to find those few special people we can always count on to lift us up and serve as our motivational mentors. The bottom line is that we are the average of the people we spend the most time with. Choose your top five most inspiring, uplifting, or humorous friends or colleagues and be intentional about spending time with them. Facebook offers me a dose of some of my fave five when I can’t physically be with them. Every morning when I read their status updates I know I’m going to laugh or feel inspired and it sets the tone for my day.
2) Begin a “best part of the day” notebook. Mine is a simple ruled spiral notebook that sits on the corner of my desk. At the end of the day my task is to reflect on the events of the past 24 hours and write one line (only) which captures the essence of something worth remembering. It could be something that made me laugh or taught me a lesson. Many times it is a quote that I read or a poignant moment I experienced during my work as a professional speaker and corporate trainer. I craft my one liner as if it were a newspaper headline so that it captures the true essence of the moment. When I’m having a bad day, I flip through my book and the headlines help me relive those moments that have made my life full and rewarding.
3) Get fit! Nothing provides a quick-attitude-fix than a good sweat. It’s the best therapy money can buy. But if you want to reap the rewards, you have to do the work. Only then will it become the ultimate stress fixer-elixir!
4) Act “as if.” Dale Carnegie once said, “act enthusiastic and you’ll be enthusiastic.” Shakespeare wrote, “assume a virtue if you have it not.” Amy Cuddy, in her recent Ted Talk, tells us “don’t fake it till you make it. Fake it till you become it.” All three experts agree. Sometimes being more positive means going through the motions until our mind and body are finally in sync.
Life at the Best Exotic Marigold Hotel does turn out alright. But real life is not so simple. Problems are not often solved, relationships are not mended, and illness is not commonly cured within a neat two-hour segment. But we must never lose hope. Sooner or later, in one way or another, “everything will be alright in the end. And if it’s not alright, it’s not the end.” Keep the faith.